Death and friendship
Amy Sedaris has said that after her mom died, she separated friends into those who understood and those who did not. “When my mom died, I divided people up: ‘Oh, both of your parents are alive? You go stand on that side of the street.’ Because you don’t know what it’s like ‘till you lose a parent. It just changes everything." She has also lost her father to Alzheimer's and shared her mutual grief with brother David on a recent episode of Anderson Cooper's "All there is" podcast. The transformation in our lives following such deep loss usurps our other relationships. I know it did, it has, for me. Even though I started off sound -- completing my thesis and master's with merit at King's College London when Mom passed in August 2018 -- I would soon realize I had few real friends. It also drove a wedge between me and family members it turns out I was not especially close to to begin with, while introducing me to cousins who knew grief and knew my pain and wa...